Links of the Week – July 3, 2015

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* Me After Every Day At The Office

* When Someone Asks Me Substantive Questions Of What I Do

* 10 Things You Can’t Do While Following Jesus

* 10 POLITICAL Things You Can’t Do While Following Jesus

* 10 Things You Need To Be Okay With If You Want A Happy Relationship

* 27 Pictures The Perfectly Sum Up Your Life
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* Zack Hunt : A Word Of Warning To My Fellow Christians About Same-Sex Marriage

* Star Trek Uglydolls – (WANT!)
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* Anti-intellectualism Is Killing America – (Absolutely.)

* Extra Tiny Customized Pet Portrait Fiber Friends

* Hawks Unveil Plan To Win By Damaging Opponents’ Retinas

* How To Change The World From Your Couch – (One person CAN change the world!)
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* Mini Peanut Butter And Chocolate Baked Doughnuts

* “Night Burgers” – Bob’s Burgers – ( ❤ ❤ ❤ )

* Joseph Michael: Luminosity

* It Doesn’t Matter That We Don’t Speak Or Read Japanese

* Researchers Say Virgin Mary Actually God’s Second Choice To Bear Son – (“There came a time, the parchment suggests, when God confided to Erica that He couldn’t ‘wait around forever…'”)

* Julia: Super Special Summer Family Togetherness

* This Dude Challenged Himself To Wear Heels All Day And Wanted To Die – (Women too, y’all. We’re just dumb enough to keep doing it.)

* Transgender Swimmer Given Choice Of Harvard’s Men’s Or Women’s Teams

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“We are all important, but not for the reasons we think.”
– Anonymous

“I am trying to do what I can to love, today. Can anything else be more important?”
– Anonymous

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How Do I Love Myself?

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Contrary to popular belief, depressed people desperately want to feel better. I know this from my own experience. For me, the self-loathing and apathy were excruciating. I would pray and pray and pray that God would fix me, or would send me a man who would fix me. But neither of those things would ever happen no matter how often or how feverishly I hoped and prayed. Eventually I was so sad and hopeless I pondered jumping off my 20th floor balcony. I sat with a noose around my neck. I felt like I was being swallowed whole by my mere existence.

When I came out of that funk, I was terrified by where I’d been. I felt like I’d been balancing on a tightrope over the pit of hell. I never wanted to be swallowed up by that fear and emptiness and darkness ever again. I knew I had to take my life into my own hands and stop waiting on someone or something else to change me.

I hate pablum and cliches. So I am often too cynical and sardonic to “lower myself” to follow simple, common advice from friends and family. But at this point I was willing to try anything, even things other people had suggested. (How gauche! :rolleyes:)

I had to get off the couch, stop isolating and get back into the world. I started going to AA meetings again. I let myself enjoy food that was fattening. I volunteered to work with FurKids, an agency that works to rescue and find homes for homeless cats and dogs. I continued to be active in my church.

Yes. All the things that people had been telling me to do for years.

Even though it was sometimes tiring, and I was socially engaged more often than I really liked, I quickly realized that I was feeling better. Part of it was being with people. Part of it was spending three hours a week playing with kittens. Part of it was the serenity I found in other women’s stories in AA. Part of it was Ben & Jerry. And frankly, lots of times it was just being too busy to worry about all the things and people in the past and the future that I’d been obsessing and worrying about.

Man, it was an incredible relief! I was starting to feel like myself again. The weight was lifting off my shoulders. I actually looked forward to things a couple of times! I felt like everything was finally coming back together.

But one piece of advice that I’d been told over and over still kept nagging at me. “You have to love yourself.”

Well how the hell do you do that?!? I can’t just will myself to fall in love with the next guy I meet. How can I do that with myself. Love is one of those things you either feel or you don’t.

So, with no answers, I just went on and kept trying to open myself up to people and stay active and be less critical of myself and others. I said the Serenity Prayer out loud a lot. I felt so much more in control of my life. But there was still that unscratched itch at the thought of how to love myself.

And then one day, out of the blue, it occurred to me. DERP!  I’ve always thought about love as a feeling. But turns out, love is a verb!

It’s the way we act, and the way we treat and care for ourselves and others! You are kind to yourself. You do nice things for yourself. You forgive yourself. You treat yourself as you’d treat your neighbor. THAT is how you love yourself. Turns out love isn’t a feeling; it’s an action.

It had been that simple all along and I was just too smart to see it.

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Judgement Belongs to God

Written by United Methodist Bishop Melvin G. Talbert
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“I am a life-long United Methodist.

Early on in my ministry, I did not approve of gay and lesbian people because I thought I knew God’s Word regarding this issue.

While attending a church gathering in Boston in the mid-1970s, I met a very charming young lady, let’s call her Jane. She did not fit the stereotypical image I had of gay people. The event was designed to allow straight and gay people to get to know each other without knowing our vocations or sexual orientation. During our final session together, we were invited to divulge our vocations and our sexual identity.

When Jane shared that she was gay, she shook the foundation of what I had always thought and been taught about gay people. I had to reexamine my beliefs.

In Matthew, Jesus says, ‘Do not judge, so that you may not be judged.’ Then and there, I promised God that I would never again discriminate against any persons because of their sexual orientation.

Reflecting on my involvement with the Civil Rights movement, I was reminded of how it feels to experience marginalization and oppression. I have always had a loving quarrel with my church because of what it did to my people over the years.

I slowly came to realize that, like the disciples, I had been blind to the truth that was right in front of me. Gay and lesbian people, just like people of color, are members of God’s human family.

So, I have come to the realization that we are all children of God in the process of being saved by God’s grace. Therefore, we do not have the right to deny another child of God his/her place at God’s table. By God’s grace, we are granted the privilege to invite all people to God’s table. But it is not our call to judge who is worthy. Only God can make that call.

Reflecting on scripture, tradition, experience and reason, my mind was changed on the issue of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Christians in the church. We all belong to God.

Links of the Week – April 24, 2015

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Manage Chronic Worry With Worry Periods

* What The Fuck Should I Make For Dinner?

* Crispy Avocado Fries With Melty Cheese Dip

* Loaded Butterscotch Cheesecake – (OMG!)

* Salted Chocolate Chunk Cookies – (Dead!)

* Dickipedia: Ted Nugent

* Healthy Personal Boundaries & How To Establish Them

* Do Not Obey Your Parents

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* Does God Change His Mind?

* Laguna Beach To Sedona

* Evening Sky Tours

* Red Rock State Park

* Star Trek: TNG – Season 2 vs. Season 6 – (Truth.)

* Trek Lessons

* Transgender Man Leads ‘Men’s Health’ Cover Model Contest – (That’s a hot dude!)

* Transgender Teen Wins Case To Wear Makeup In DMV Photo

* Men’s Story Project Questions Gender Roles

* How To Throw Like A Girl

* Lesbian Couple Fired From Aloma Methodist ECLC After Being Told To Change Their Lifestyle

* Seriously, USA?: Most Of You Know I Grew Up With Two Moms – (Blog post of the week. This story will break your heart.)

* Wrigley Field Ivy Yields Ancient Prize

* After 10 Years In The Minors, Paulo Orlando Hit A Triple In His Major League Debut – (Makes my heart happy!)

* Banging For The Bucks; SEC Coaches Edition – (Looks like Richt’s earning his money!)

* NASA’s New Horizons Nears Historic Encounter With Pluto

* Nautilus Ocean Exploration Vehicle Has Rare Sighting Of Sperm Whale – (Awesome in the true sense of the word!)

* Chile’s Calbuco Volcano Erupts For The First Time In 40 Years – (Gorgeous pictures!)

* Emory Unveils Water Recycling Facility

* Kitty Sneaker Boots – (Dawwwwwww!)

* Dazzle Glitter Combat Boots – (THIS!!!)

* The Making Of Dr. Oz

*  ‘I Regret Everything’:Toni Morrison Looks Back On Her Personal Life

* What It’s Like To Have Down Syndrome – And Care For A Sister With Disabilities

* Don’t Tell Me When The Next AA Meeting Is

* Behind The Mixer: Take The 15-Point Church Service Review

* Avoiding “Forever Alone”

* For When You Think No One Will Love You

* I Need To Be Loved So Much, I Want To Be Loved

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* Jon Krakauer On Campus Rape, Victim Backlash And Why “Missoula” Was The Hardest Book He’s Had To Write – (Sickening)

* Dakota State Athletics Plays Game Of ‘Dizzy Punt’ – (Hysterical!)

* Spoonflower: Design Your Own Fabric, Wallpaper & Giftwrap

* Oh, God! Teacher Arranged Desks In Giant Circle

* Fast Food Drive-Thru Just Cow Carcass, Bucket For Money

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“I never stopped loving you but there came a time I had to start loving me.”

– Christopher Stone

“She gave me an odd look. ‘You’d be surprised, Theo,’ she said, leaning back in her shawl-draped chair, ‘what small, everyday things can lift us out of despair. But nobody can do it for you. You’re the one who has to watch for the open door.'”

– Donna Tartt, The Goldfinch

“On game day, until five o’clock or so, the white desert light held off the essential Sunday gloom – autumn sinking into winter, loneliness of October dusk with school the next day – but there was always a long still moment toward the end of those football afternoons where the mood of the crowd turned and everything grew desolate and uncertain, onscreen and off, the sheet-metal glare off the patio glass fading to gold then gray, long shadows and night falling into desert stillness, a sadness I couldn’t shake off…”


– Donna Tartt, The Goldfinch

“We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others, that in the end, we become disguised to ourselves.”

– Francois De La Rochefoucauld

“I was terrified of death by the time I was three or four, actively if not lucidly. I had frequent nightmares about snakes and scary neighbors. By the age of four or five, I was terrified by my thoughts. By the time I was five, the migraines began. I was so sensitive about myself and the world that I cried or shriveled up at the slightest hurt. People always told me, ‘You’ve got to get a thicker skin,’ like now they might say, jovially, ‘Let go and let God.’ Believe me, if I could, I would, and in the meantime I feel like stabbing you in the forehead.”

– Anne Lamott, Help, Thanks, Wow

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